A sharp and entertaining essay collection about the importance of multiple forms of love and friendship in a world designed for couples, from a laser-precise new voice.Sometimes it seems like there are two American creeds, self-reliance and marriage, and neither of them is mine. I experience myself as someone formed and sustained by others' love and patience, by student loans and stipends, by the kindness of strangers.Briallen Hopper's Hard to Love honors the categories of loves and relationships beyond marriage, the ones that are often treated as invisible or seen as secondary--friendships, kinship with adult siblings, care teams that form in times of illness, or various alternative family formations. She also values difficult and amorphous loves like loving a challenging job or inanimate objects that can't love you back. She draws from personal experience, sharing stories about her loving but combative family, the fiercely independent Emerson scholar who pushed her away, and the frie...
|Title||:||Hard to Love: Essays and Confessions|
|Number of Pages||:||336 pages|
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Hard to Love: Essays and Confessions Reviews
Full disclosure: I know the author, and I am mentioned in the acknowledgements (thanks Bri!). And let me tell you what an enormous relief it is that I am able to review this book after all. Because I decided a long time ago that I wouldn't review books by people I know if I don't love them (the books, I mean - although I suppose it often applies to the authors too). It's a little like writing recommendation letters for students (which I do frequently); unless I can honestly rave about them, it's ...more
In our society, women are taught at an early age that the ultimate goal in life is to find true love and marry, and those who fail will be unhappy and feel unfulfilled. Through a series of experiences and critical analysis, Hopper reaffirms that love is not just romantic love, and a life well-lived can indeed happen with friendships, sisterhood, and family; all we have to do is reach out and lean on.