A sharp and entertaining essay collection about the importance of multiple forms of love and friendship in a world designed for couples, from a laser-precise new voice.Sometimes it seems like there are two American creeds, self-reliance and marriage, and neither of them is mine. I experience myself as someone formed and sustained by others' love and patience, by student loans and stipends, by the kindness of strangers.Briallen Hopper's Hard to Love honors the categories of loves and relationships beyond marriage, the ones that are often treated as invisible or seen as secondary--friendships, kinship with adult siblings, care teams that form in times of illness, or various alternative family formations. She also values difficult and amorphous loves like loving a challenging job or inanimate objects that can't love you back. She draws from personal experience, sharing stories about her loving but combative family, the fiercely independent Emerson scholar who pushed her away, and the frie...
|Title||:||Hard to Love: Essays and Confessions|
|Number of Pages||:||336 pages|
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Hard to Love: Essays and Confessions Reviews
Lean On stood out among the essays. I adored it. Others were less quotable; however, all taken together this book leaves me feeling like I know Briallen Hopper. She is a person I would be friends with. We would watch Golden Girls and eat baked goods and march for Women's Rights. We would talk about writing and reading, religion and philosophy. We'd cherish the good times, lament the bad ones. Even now, as I write this, I am routing for her re: Moby Dick. Maybe one day she will move to Syracuse a ...more
Challenging, thought-provoking & empathy-raising read for an old Catholic guy. Smart, crystal clear prose.
Full disclosure: I know the author, and I am mentioned in the acknowledgements (thanks Bri!). And let me tell you what an enormous relief it is that I am able to review this book after all. Because I decided a long time ago that I wouldn't review books by people I know if I don't love them (the books, I mean - although I suppose it often applies to the authors too). It's a little like writing recommendation letters for students (which I do frequently); unless I can honestly rave about them, it's ...more
This is a well done memoir in essays. A few of them didn't really resonate with me, but most of them were pretty great. I loved the first one, which is in favor of dependence and against Emersonian self-reliance. Some other memorable essays were about a close friend's cancer diagnosis, Cheers (a show I've never seen despite being from Boston), the old movie Now Voyager, and her damaged relationship with her brother, largely because of religious differences. That's actually an interesting undercu ...more
I loved it so freakin much. Hopper writes with as much intelligence as the best (Sontag, Solnit, Didion), but also with a kind of light touch and personableness that’s sometimes lacking from the very smart but very formal famous essayists. The collection focuses on relationships that exist beyond romance: friends, sisters, roommates, caretakers. Hopper shows that these relationships are just as important as romantic love, and by giving more attention to them, you actually make the world a more e ...more
This book is beautiful, searing, and helped me to think about love and friendship in new ways. If you are a human who knows other humans, you should read it.
this helped me a lot when i needed it most. so many quotes really stood out to me. this book gave me strength in myself that kept trying to hide its face from my own self. i also really enjoyed learning about Cheers.
"The paradox was that my newfound self-reliance was a symptom of my utter reliance on him. I depended on his demand that I not depend. I leaned on not leaning on him. The irony was he left me anyway."
"I was ashamed that I needed him emotionally and existentially in ways he didn’t see ...more